How to relieve guilt? Advisor psychologist Lin Cuifen teaches you two ways to regain your healthy mind by extorting emotions and blackmailing!

. If you often have self-responsible voices in your heart: "It's all bad for me." "Isn't helping him, isn't it related?" "It's all because of me." "Will he have something happen to him?" "I'm really not doing it well?" "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." "Don't cause trouble for others." "Don't bother others." If there are words, it means you are prone to sin and are more likely to be trapped in the "crime trap".

Usually, people with strong "crime" have a strong "morality" and are easy to take responsibility for themselves. They always feel that they have violated moral standards and do not conform to the principles of being a human being. They will automatically feel regretful and regretful about other people's experiences, which will lead to complex emotions such as depression, anxiety and difficulty. In addition, people who are prone to guilt will most likely avoid bothering others themselves. Once they receive help from others, they will have an endless sense of guilt.

Let go of your own responsibility and master a happy life. Experts teach you to break the "crime trap"

Being surrounded by "crime" for a long time is very harmful to mental health. On the one hand, you will unconsciously bear the responsibility of the people around you, and your psychological burden will naturally be heavy; on the other hand, you are constantly self-responsible in your heart, and you always feel that you are sorry for others and are afraid of bad consequences. Psychologist Lin Cuifen explained that he wanted to reduce the "sense of guilt",

. The first step is to divide the difference between "self-reflection" and "self-responsibility". We can think about: do you need to adjust anything, and don’t need to be responsible for “it’s all caused by me” or “it’s all because I haven’t done it well.”

. The second step is to divide one's own responsibilities and others' responsibilities. Excessively taking on other people's responsibilities will not only make one's own physical and mental health, but will also make the other party ignore the abilities they possess and focus on how to set up the "crime trap", and indirectly instruct others to be responsible for them. Over time, they will lose their good functions. Removing the "crime trap" can not only make one's body and mind healthy, but also make the other party develop functions and form a positive psychological cycle.

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Responsible editor: Chen Yaomei