Will a person feel lonely? The more you get lonely, the more you will fall into the quagmire of loneliness.

With the outbreak of the new coronavirus epidemic around the world, new lifestyles of "promoting single action" have begun to emerge in various places. Whether it is shopping, walking, or eating outside, it is actually a personal movement. In addition to avoiding the crowded places, we spend a life that is as likely to be uninvited to others every day.

Perhaps because of this, "lonely" is becoming a hot trend. The popular "loneness" and "indulgence" among young people are also typical examples.

Orphanage can be divided into "unwilling loneliness (exhausted loneliness)" and "willing loneliness (exhausted loneliness)". Unwilling loneliness refers to the attitude of negating the orphan, and believes that "being forced to live a self-management of self-cultivation will lead to a reduction in the chance of being with others, not only feeling lonely but also losing vitality."

On the contrary, the willing loneliness is to have a positive attitude towards the orphan, thinking that "although you can be a little lonely if you cannot meet others, you will be free and you can do what you want."

Perhaps many people think that being alone is that a person will feel lonely. But many times we are not "lost because we are alone", but we feel even more lonely about "even if there are many people around us, we still feel that there is a distance between us."

However, please think carefully: whether we have parents, children, or friends, we will eventually be alone. Everyone is born and one dies. Even if a couple lives together, one day will surely leave the world first. The end of life is a "personal competition", which is the essence of loneliness. Even if you own a family, you cannot rule out the fundamental solitude of human beings. Now, because of the COVID-19 epidemic, we have the opportunity to re-examine this severity that is unsightly.

The more you get lonely, the more you will fall into the quagmire of loneliness. But if you can enjoy loneliness, you will not be confused by the noise around you. In this way, you can re-examine your original appearance and use the idea of "I want to be such a person" and "I want to do this", and then a "new self" emerges. I call this "spiritual independence" like this "self-reliance".

If you can live alone, good things will happen

"Hold alone, cherish your time, and try not to bother others. Become a person who can live alone, your foothold in life will become more wonderful."

When we can live alone, strongly realize that "others are others, I am me", and become a person who can be independent, there will be many good things:

1. Improve autonomy. No longer over-examine your expressions and appearances, you have the power to choose the life you want independently.

2. Can establish self-value and have a stronger sense of self-sympathy.

3. Rapidly reduce the feeling of being pressured by society. Some people feel pressure in society or when they are in harmony with their relatives, but if they can pass away the lonely time with an active and active mind, they will gradually produce the power to relieve this sense of pressure.

4. A unique viewpoint that can be uninfluenced by others. If new skills or interests can be developed from this, the lifestyle can be more different from others. Some people also make their life successful because they become independent. Because you will not blindly imitate others, but live in your own style, you may also encounter failures. But even so, it can be understood and accepted.

5. Indulgence can improve concentration. It is a wonderful time to eat with people you like; but when a person eats, he can also focus on savoring the taste of the food itself. It is a good time to watch movies with others; but for me who likes movies, watching movies is a blessing that is indescribable. If I were asked to describe what it feels like to ski on a ski field, I would say that nothing can replace the supreme happiness. If I could never descend from the three-kilometer ramp with a snowslide again, then I would have no idea when I die. I love the time so passionately.

6. You will develop a true self. Russian writer Tolstoy once said: "When you are alone, people will feel their true self." That is to say, through time when you are alone, people can realize their true thoughts.

7. Because you can be alone, you can understand more clearly that you should cherish others and learn how to love others. American News reporter Peter. Pete Hamill once said: "I think people who cannot survive their own lonely time are not qualified to love others. Only by starting from being able to rely on their own strength can they love someone without forcing others to love someone."

Hold on to being alone, cherishing the time of being alone, and trying not to bother others when doing something--if you become a person who can live like this, your foothold in life will become more wonderful. This is self-reliance. Don’t care about other people’s eyes, and be determined. Don't think too much, try to pass the time alone in daily life with an extremely positive attitude. Self-reliance begins here.